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POLYAMORY: Spiritual Quagmire?

Sun, 02 Aug 2009 22:25:15 GMT

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Polyamory: Ethical Nonmonogamy or Spiritual Quagmire?

07/29/09 Print This Post 8 Comments Written by Christine Garvin

The “Liberated Christians” believe that monogamy and sexual repression have no biblical basis.

Have to admit, I thought polyamory was a San Francisco Bay Area (specifically, Marin County) original.

But whoa, nelly. Newsweek just did a spread on this type of extreme loving. For those who don’t know, polyamory means having a relationship with more than one person at a time.

Naturally, this growing movement has brought out commentary from the religious right. But they are taking a bit of a leap, with some leaders believing that if gay marriage becomes legal, polyamory will become “normalized.” Glenn Stanton, the director of family studies for Focus on the Family, had this to say:

This group is really rising up from the underground, emboldened by the success of the gay-marriage movement.

Only You. And You. And You.

Wed, 29 Jul 2009 23:26:23 GMT

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Clip Source: www.newsweek.com

Polyamory—relationships with multiple, mutually consenting partners—has a coming-out party.

Terisa and Matt and Vera and Larry—along with Scott, who's also at this dinner—are not swingers, per se; they aren't pursuing casual sex. Nor are they polygamists of the sort portrayed on HBO's Big Love; they aren't religious, and they don't have multiple wives. But they do believe in "ethical nonmonogamy," or engaging in loving, intimate relationships with more than one person—based upon the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. They are polyamorous, to use the term of art applied to multiple-partner families like theirs, and they wouldn't want to live any other way.

It's enough to make any monogamist's head spin. But the traditionalists had better get used to it.

Researchers are just beginning to study the phenomenon, but the few who do estimate that openly polyamorous families in the United States number more than half a million, with thriving contingents in nearly every major city.

Tags: marriage, relationships, polyamory, culture, family

90% of people disapprove of marital non-monogamy -- over 25% cheat on partner

Wed, 15 Jul 2009 22:45:44 GMT

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Clip Source: blog.seattlepi.com

Ok, so a recent Gallup poll says that over 90 per cent of people disapprove of marital non-monogamy.

over a lifetime approximately 25 to 50 per cent of married men and women are going to cheat on their partner.

we have historically tried to criminalize this behavior.

South Carolina makes "habitual carnal intercourse" outside of marriage a crime potentially punishable with incarceration

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The issue is one of trust, not sexual conduct.

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10 realistic rules for good non-monogamous relationships

Tue, 22 Jul 2008 00:31:21 GMT

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Clip Source: sexgeek.wordpress.com

1. Know yourself. For starters, be brutally honest with yourself and answer the following questions. I’m not kidding about the brutal part. Sugarcoating will not help you here.

2. Love yourself. Okay, so this sounds like the greatest cliché known to man, but it’s actually the basic ingredient for good non-monogamy.

3. Be happy ALONE. Yes, that’s right. Alone. All alone. No partner.

4. Communicate. Honestly. Now comes the time where you take all that brutal honesty with yourself, and translate it into brutal honesty with your partner(s).

5. Know what you want. Here’s another list of questions for ya.

6. Go for content, not form.

7. Be nice. Polyamory is not about the technicalities. It’s the spirit, not the letter of the law that counts.

8. Have safer sex. This doesn’t just mean use a condom.

9. Be strong. Make no mistake about it: choosing a polyamorous relationship style is a radical thing.

10. Go with the flow. In other words, don’t go out looking for anything.

Tags: relationships, non-monogamy, mlf

7 habits of highly effective open relationships

Tue, 22 Jul 2008 00:26:04 GMT

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Clip Source: defendingtheraven.blogspot.com

1. To thine own self be true. First and foremost before even entering into the conversation about opening your relationship in any way you have to be honest with yourself. Is this something you, as an individual, want? Something you're interested in, excited by, and want to try? Or, are you doing it for your partner? If you are then stop.

2. Like in monopoly, house rules apply.

3. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.

4. Everyone gets a veto.

5. "Can you hear me now?" is not just a cheesy line from a commercial.

6. Change is a Force of Nature.

7. 1 + 1 + x = 2. Always.

Tags: relationships, sexuality, non-monogamy, mlf

Poly-Amory as a lifestyle and it's meaning

Wed, 09 May 2007 10:08:45 GMT

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clipper's remarks: i recently posted and clipped something about polyamory lifestyles and there is so much more to it. so here is a better Discription clipped from the Dictionary lol .. might help some of those who don't understand

Clip Source: en.wikipedia.org

Polyamory (from poly=multiple + amor=love) is the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved. Polyamorous perspectives differ from monogamous perspectives, in that they respect a partner's wish to have second or further meaningful relationships and to accommodate these alongside their existing relationships.

The term polyamory is sometimes abbreviated to poly, especially as a form of self-description, and is sometimes described as consensual and/or responsible non-monogamy. Polyamory is usually taken as a description of a lifestyle or relational choice and philosophy, rather than of individuals' actual relationship status at a given moment. There is a certain fluidity in its definition, to accommodate the different shades of meaning which might be covered. Polyamorous relationships are themselves varied, reflecting the choices and philosophies of the individuals concerned.

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Love unlimited: The polyamorists

Sun, 25 Feb 2007 11:45:09 GMT

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Clip Source: www.newscientist.com

Love unlimited: The polyamorists

"I was dating Gordon when I met Heather and Jim. Then I started dating Jim too, and Heather started dating Gordon right before he and I broke up," says Noemi. Confused? Tonight I'm having dinner with a group whose unusual lifestyle warrants such introductions. They are a "polyamorous" family - one whose members are openly committed to several lovers at the same time.

Their household, in a quiet neighbourhood on the outskirts of San Francisco, looks like any other. A little boy in pyjamas answers the door when I knock, smiling around a large strawberry stuck in his mouth. His mother Heather, an artist with oval glasses and pink hair, is cooking in the kitchen with her boyfriend Gordon, a computer-network engineer with an understated manner. The dining room is pleasant, airy and smells of roasting chicken. Heather's husband Jim, along with housemates Noemi and Alicia, are bustling about the table, opening wine, putting out place settings and making sure Heather and Jim's son (the strawberry eater) brushes his teeth before going to bed. Noemi, a park ranger who is pregnant with Jim's second child, offers me some bread and cheese.

For psychologists and evolutionary biologists, polyamory is a rare opportunity to see, out in the open, what happens when people stop suppressing their desire for multiple partners and embrace non-monogamy. Proponents say the poly brand of open but committed relationships may be a way around infidelity because it turns an age-old problem into a solution: polyamorists are released from the burdens of traditional marriage vows, yet they seem to keep their long-term relationships intact. What makes poly enticing is the possibility of reconciling long-term stability and romantic variety.

Tags: science, research, lifestyle, evolution, non-monogamy, polyamorous