http://clipmarks.com/clipper/wiccantexan/clipcast/Personal/http://rss.clipmarks.com/clipper/wiccantexan/clipcast/Personal/15Clip, tag and save information that's important to you. Bookmarks save entire pages...Clipmarks save the specific content that matters to you!en-ushttp://clipmarks.com/clipmark/8F428FD8-9BFA-4FC0-97B6-25DAED88E87D/<b>clipped by:</b> <a href="http://clipmarks.com/clipper/missangelyss/">missangelyss</a><br><div border="2" style="margin-top: 10px; border:#000000 1px solid;" width="90%"><div style="background-color:"><div align="center" width="100%" style="padding:4px;margin-bottom:4px;background-color:#666666;overflow:hidden;"><span style="color:#FFFFFF;font-weight:bold;">Clip Source: <a style="color:#FFFFFF;" href="http://webhome.idirect.com/~kehamilt/ipsyeq.html" title="http://webhome.idirect.com/~kehamilt/ipsyeq.html">webhome.idirect.com</a></span></div><div style="padding: 10px;"><div style="text-align:left;"><DIV align="left"> <P align="left"> </P> <P align="center"><FONT size="5"><STRONG>The Ten Habits of Emotionally Intelligent People</STRONG></FONT><FONT size="5"><STRONG><BR /> </STRONG></FONT><FONT size="2">Copyright 1999 Steve Hein, The EQ Institute - May be copied for educational uses.</FONT><FONT size="5"><STRONG> </STRONG></FONT></P> <P><FONT size="4"><B>High EQ people:</B></FONT></P> <TABLE border="1" bgcolor="%23ffccff"> <TBODY><TR> <TD>1. Label their feelings, rather than labeling people or situations.</TD> <TD>"I feel impatient." vs "This is ridiculous." <P>"I feel hurt and bitter". vs. "You are an insensitive jerk."</P> <P>"I feel afraid." vs. "You are driving like a idiot."</P> </TD> </TR> <TR> <TD>2. Distinguish between thoughts and feelings.</TD> <TD>Thoughts: I feel like...& I feel as if.... & I feel that <P>Feelings: I feel: (feeling word)</P> </TD> </TR> <TR> <TD>3. Take responsibility for their feelings.</TD> <TD>"I feel jealous." vs. "You are making me jealous."</TD> </TR> <TR> <TD>4. Use their feelings to help them make decisions. </TD> <TD>"How will I feel if I do this?" "How will I feel if I don't"</TD> </TR> <TR> <TD>5. Show respect for other people's feelings.</TD> <TD>They ask "How will you feel if I do this?" "How will you feel if I don't."</TD> </TR> <TR> <TD>6. Feel energized, not angry. </TD> <TD>They use what others call "anger" to help them feel energized to take productive action. </TD> </TR> <TR> <TD>7. Validate other people's feelings.</TD> <TD>They show empathy, understanding, and acceptance of other people's feelings.</TD> </TR> <TR> <TD>8. Practice getting a positive value from their negative emotions.</TD> <TD>They ask themselves: "How do I feel?" and "What would help me feel better?" <P>They ask others "How do you feel?" and "What would help you feel better?"</P> </TD> </TR> <TR> <TD>9. Don't advise, command, control, criticize, judge or lecture to others. </TD> <TD>They realize it doesn't feel good to be on the receiving end of such behavior, so they avoid it. </TD> </TR> <TR> <TD>10. Avoid people who invalidate them, or don't respect their feelings.</TD> <TD>As much as possible, they choose to associate only with other people with high EQ.</TD> </TR> </TBODY></TABLE> <P><FONT size="2"> </FONT></P> </DIV></div></div></div></div><br><div style="margin-bottom: 40px;">Tags: <a href="http://clipmarks.com/tags/eq/" rel="tag">eq</a>, <a href="http://clipmarks.com/tags/emotional+intelligence/" rel="tag">emotional intelligence</a></div>http://webhome.idirect.com/~kehamilt/ipsyeq.htmlWed, 31 Jan 2007 04:37:49 GMT