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Ten Habits of Emotionally Intelligent People

Wed, 31 Jan 2007 04:37:49 GMT

clipped by: missangelyss

The Ten Habits of Emotionally Intelligent People
Copyright 1999 Steve Hein, The EQ Institute - May be copied for educational uses.

High EQ people:

1. Label their feelings, rather than labeling people or situations.	"I feel impatient." vs "This is ridiculous." "I feel hurt and bitter". vs. "You are an insensitive jerk." "I feel afraid." vs. "You are driving like a idiot."
2. Distinguish between thoughts and feelings.	Thoughts: I feel like...& I feel as if.... & I feel that Feelings: I feel: (feeling word)
3. Take responsibility for their feelings.	"I feel jealous." vs. "You are making me jealous."
4. Use their feelings to help them make decisions.	"How will I feel if I do this?" "How will I feel if I don't"
5. Show respect for other people's feelings.	They ask "How will you feel if I do this?" "How will you feel if I don't."
6. Feel energized, not angry.	They use what others call "anger" to help them feel energized to take productive action.
7. Validate other people's feelings.	They show empathy, understanding, and acceptance of other people's feelings.
8. Practice getting a positive value from their negative emotions.	They ask themselves: "How do I feel?" and "What would help me feel better?" They ask others "How do you feel?" and "What would help you feel better?"
9. Don't advise, command, control, criticize, judge or lecture to others.	They realize it doesn't feel good to be on the receiving end of such behavior, so they avoid it.
10. Avoid people who invalidate them, or don't respect their feelings.	As much as possible, they choose to associate only with other people with high EQ.

Tags: eq, emotional intelligence

12 Writing Tips From George Orwell

Thu, 15 Feb 2007 18:14:30 GMT

clipped by: missangelyss

Clip Source: www.writingclasses.com

George Orwell has earned the right to be called one of the finer writers in the English language through such novels as 1984 and Animal Farm, such essays as “Shooting an Elephant,” and his memoir Down and Out in Paris.

George expressed a strong dislike of totalitarian governments in his work, but he was also passionate defender of good writing. Thus, you may want to hear some of George’s writing tips.*

A scrupulous writer, in every sentence that he writes, will ask himself at least four questions, thus:

What am I trying to say?
What words will express it?
What image or idiom will make it clearer?
Is this image fresh enough to have an effect?

And he will probably ask himself two more:

Could I put it more shortly?
Have I said anything that is avoidably ugly?

One can often be in doubt about the effect of a word or a phrase, and one needs rules that one can rely on when instinct fails. I think the following rules will cover most cases:

Never use a metaphor, simile, or other figure of speech which you are used to seeing in print.
Never use a long word where a short one will do.
If it is possible to cut a word out, always cut it out.
Never use the passive where you can use the active.
Never use a foreign phrase, a scientific word, or a jargon word if you can think of an everyday English equivalent.
Break any of these rules sooner than say anything outright barbarous.

* From “Politics and the English Language” by George Orwell.

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Tags: writing

Teen Witch - Top That!

Mon, 16 Apr 2007 00:28:48 GMT

clipped by: missangelyss
clipper's remarks: O, how I've missed Teen Witch and didn't even realize it until I happened to catch it on TV today!

Clip Source: www.youtube.com

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Tags: 80s, rap

Why Steampunk Is Popular

Sat, 20 Sep 2008 20:30:46 GMT

clipped by: missangelyss

Clip Source: www.darkfantasy.org

1. It’s Geekery The Genders Can Share

On the most basic, most appealing social level, steampunk is a way to masculinize romance.

2. An Aesthetic Response To The Science Fiction In The Culture

clean, happy technology with rounded edges. Which is great in that it’s completely user-friendly — but terrible in that “user-friendly” means “predictable”

3. Like Being Goth Without Scaring Your Parents

People think of goths as weirdoes who take vampires too seriously, and therefore they can’t help being worried on some level that a crazy goth might, you know, want to make them bleed. Whereas steampunks are — what? Weirdoes who take pocket-watches too seriously? What are they gonna do, vehemently tell you what time it is?

4. Bridging The Subgenre Gap

Steampunk is helping to bring us back to the days when the subgenre categories didn’t matter so much

5. The Future: UR Doin It Wrong

Steampunk basically lets us go back, at least in our imagination, and try again

Create Quality Time by Ignoring the Clock

Wed, 06 Aug 2008 03:42:15 GMT

clipped by: missangelyss
clipper's remarks: This is something my mommy was amazing at and something I hope my children will consider me amazing at when they are older.

I miss you, mommy.

Clip Source: www.mycup2yours.com

Last Saturday, as my daughter and I were out running errands, she climbed into the front seat of the car and, with a huge smile on her face, stood up through the sunroof. “I’ve always wanted to do this!” she shouted, reaching her hands to the sky.

She and I had started out earlier for our errands. I had my list of things to do and was looking forward to being productive.

Three times last week, my daughter asked me if we could get a hot chocolate together.

Three times I said no.

It was, “We have to get to basketball,” and “We have to get to swim team,” and “We can’t, or we’ll be late for cheer.”

As I thought about that, I wanted to make this day different. Our schedule was wide open, and I wanted to make the most of it.

I smiled and looked in the rear-view mirror. “Want to go to Starbucks? Just us girls?”

Her eyes got wide. “Sure!”

When you think about it, my daughter and I didn’t do anything “special” on Saturday.

But, really, we did.

Tags: parenting, quality time

10 Words to Avoid When Writing

Mon, 14 Jul 2008 22:37:36 GMT

clipped by: missangelyss
clipper's remarks: I think I am really kind of guilty of a lot of these. ;c)

Clip Source: preciseedit.com

Really: "Avoiding this word is a really great idea."
Reason: A really great idea is the same as a great idea. If you need to emphasize something, such as the "greatness" of an idea, use a single word that means what you are trying to say, e.g., "Avoiding this word is an excellent idea."

Think: "I think the government should stop people from writing poorly."
Reason: If you write an opinion, the reader understands that you also think it. Just say what it is you think, e.g., "The government should stop people from writing poorly."

Sort of/Kind of: "Using these words is sort of annoying to the reader."
Reason: If using these words is only sort of annoying, you haven't told the reader exactly what it is. If it is annoying, say so: "Writing this way annoys the reader." If it is not annoying, tell the reader exactly what it is, e.g., "Using these words bothers readers." Use words that mean what you are trying to say, and give the reader exact descriptions. This also applies to "kind of."

Tags: english, writing

Quit Coddling Your Kids

Wed, 04 Jun 2008 17:11:05 GMT

clipped by: missangelyss
clipper's remarks: I have to admit that I'm guilty of being overprotective but I do agree with the author.

Clip Source: artofmanliness.com

1. Give them some independence

This culture of obsessive over-protectiveness is bred by the media.

Don’t coddle your kids by keeping them under lock and key and only letting them out if you can keep a constant eye on them.

2. Let them do unsafe things

They fail to understand that while sticking kids in a protective bubble may keep them in safe in the short-term, it leaves them more vulnerable in the long run.

3. Don’t be their best friend

The reality is that parents want to be their child’s best friend because they’re afraid of their kid not liking them.

4. Don’t automatically take their side

While it’s natural to think the best of your children, don’t be overly defensive when others criticize them.

5. Make them work for what they get

6. Don’t praise them indiscriminately

“If everyone is special, then no one is” -The Incredibles

Tags: parenting

69 Ways of Saying, "You Whore!"

Tue, 01 Jul 2008 06:48:48 GMT

clipped by: missangelyss

Clip Source: www.pornokrates.com

Biter: A wench whose quim is ready to bite her arse: a lascivious, rampant wench.

Buttock Broker: A bawd, or a matchmaker.

Covey: a collection of whores. "What a find covey hereis, if the devil would but throw his net!"

Dells: Young buxom wenches, ripe and prone to venery, but who have not lost their virginity, which the "upright" man claims by virtue of his perogative: After which they become free for any of the fraternity. Also a common strumpet.

Hedgewhore: An itinerent harlot who bilks the bagnios and bawdyhouses by disposing of her favours on the wayside under a hedge. A low, beggerly prostitute.

Rantipole: A rude romping boy or girl; also a gadabout, dissipated woman. To ride rantipole; the same as riding St. George. See RIDING St. GEORGE. Also see WHORE.

Riding St. George: The Woman uppermost in the amourous congress, that is, the dragon upon St. George. This is said to be the way to get a bishop.

Trumpery: An old whore; or goods of no value.

Tags: english, language, humor

The Letter in the Pond

Sat, 07 Jun 2008 22:32:59 GMT

clipped by: missangelyss
clipper's remarks: After digging up a pond in his new home, he found this letter under the liner.

Clip Source: www.thatcanadiangirl.co.uk

Recently, a friend of ours, Simon, moved to Over, just North of Cambridge, UK. He was moving to a lovely property, with a nice garden and a pond.

Simon wasn’t so keen on the pond though. It’s not very child friendly, and with two young ones running around the garden, he thought it would be safer to get rid of it.

A few buckets and hours of sweating later, Simon lifted the pond lining to discover a laminated piece of paper sitting at the bottom of the gaping hole that once was the previous owner’s pond.

Tags: humor, bizarre

Who Do These Homeschooling Parents Think They Are?

Sun, 01 Jun 2008 04:18:10 GMT

clipped by: missangelyss
clipper's remarks: It's funny how some people seem so set against a parent's right to homeschool. This comment lampoons that beautifully.
(More at the site.)

Clip Source: phatmommy.com

There is an interesting discussion going on at the Asbury Park Press web site about the pros and cons of homeschooling.

TANSTAAFL2: I don’t know who these parents think they are. You would think they might leave the shaping of their children’s minds, careers and futures to trained professionals, but they insist on interfering in their offsprings’ lives every step of the way.

As if these children were actually their responsibility from birth to adulthood. Don’t they realize these are the people’s children, the state’s responsibility. As such, they must be molded by the state and educated in accordance with state requirements — no more and no less.

They must be taught the role of the state is to protect the individual from his own inherent stupidity, because the individual is incapable of making intelligent decisions for himself, and therefore cannot be held responsible for his actions. The state must act as parent, Big Brother, nanny.

Tags: homeschool

Verbotomy: The create-a-word game

Wed, 10 Jan 2007 02:18:42 GMT

clipped by: kankamuso
clipper's remarks: I'm totally into this.

Clip Source: www.verbotomy.com

Verbotomy: How to Play

Verbotomy is about creating words.

Every day we create a new definition and matching cartoon. Your challenge is to create a word -- a verboticism -- that matches the definition. After you create your verboticism, you can vote for, or against, other player's words to help select the winning verboticism for the definition.

If you want more details, click on each step listed below.

1. Read the definition

Each day we publish a new definition and cartoon on the site.

2. Create a new word

After you read the definition, try to think of a new word — a verboticism — that would be a perfect fit.

The new verboticism must be all letters (a-z), all-one-word, with no spaces, dashes, numbers, or special characters.

Ideally your new verboticism will not match any existing dictionary-words (i.e., it is new and different), but this is not an absolute requirement.

The best verboticisms are pronounceable, and hint at the meaning.

3. Save your word

When you submit your verboticism, you will get an instant verbotometry. This rates your verboticism based on its spelling, match to existing dictionary-words, and uniqueness.

Your verboticism may be a unique. Or, it may match a verboticism already submitted by another player. Authors of matching verboticism will automatically be joined together as co-creators of the word. (Each co-creator will get equal credit.)

Once you are happy with your verboticism, save it.

VERBOTOMICS:
After you save your verboticism, you can add notes to clairify the pronounciation, show sample use in a sentence, and explain its etymology — the root words or creative inspiration. (Each creator of the verboticism can edit these notes.)

4. Vote for your favorite words

Each player gets two votes, but you cannot vote for your own word.

DEFINITION: An often debilitating condition characterized by compulsive, repetitive and obsessive reading of product documentation and warranties.

Create | Vote

Tags: game, funny, fun, humor, words, writers

Worst Analogies from High School Essays

Sat, 14 Apr 2007 11:06:17 GMT

clipped by: missangelyss

Clip Source: diggfinds.com

The following are actual winning analogies in the “worst
analogies ever written in a high school essay” contest:

They lived in a typical suburban neighborhood with picket fences that resembled Nancy Kerrigan’s teeth.

He spoke with the wisdom that can only come from experience, like a guy who went blind because he looked at a solar eclipse without one of those boxes with a pinhole in it and now goes around the country speaking at high schools about the dangers of looking at a solar eclipse without one of those boxes with a pinhole in it.

McBride fell 12 stories, hitting the pavement like a Hefty Bag filled with vegetable soup.

Her hair glistened in the rain like nose hair after a sneeze.

Bob was as perplexed as a hacker who means to access T:\flw.quid55328.com\aaakk/ch@ung but gets T:\flw.quidaaak/ch@ng by mistake.

He was as tall as a six-foot three-inch tree.

John and Mary had never met. They were like two hummingbirds who had also never met.

Tags: analogies, english, essays, humor

What Happens to Your body if you stop smoking Right now?

Wed, 10 Jan 2007 14:15:35 GMT

clipped by: nemesarial

Clip Source: healthbolt.net

I think one of the main reasons it’s so hard to quit smoking is because all the benefits of quitting and all the dangers of continuing seem very far away. Well, here’s a little timeline about some of the more immediate effects of quitting smoking and how that will affect your body RIGHT NOW.

In 20 minutes your blood pressure will drop back down to normal.
In 8 hours the carbon monoxide (a toxic gas) levels in your blood stream will drop by half, and oxygen levels will return to normal.
In 48 hours your chance of having a heart attack will have decreased. All nicotine will have left your body. Your sense of taste and smell will return to a normal level.
In 72 hours your bronchial tubes will relax, and your energy levels will increase.
In 2 weeks your circulation will increase, and it will continue to improve for the next 10 weeks.
In three to nine months coughs, wheezing and breathing problems will dissipate as your lung capacity improves by 10%.
In 1 year your risk of having a heart attack will have dropped by half.
In 5 years your risk of having a stroke returns to that of a non-smoker.
In 10 years your risk of lung cancer will have returned to that of a non-smoker.
In 15 years your risk of heart attack will have returned to that of a non-smoker.

So, you have more immediate things to look forward to if you quit now besides just freaking out about not being able to smoke.

Tags: smoking, cancer, quit smoking, health

Lemon Lassies

Fri, 29 Dec 2006 04:57:16 GMT

clipped by: missangelyss
clipper's remarks: My mom's favorite cookies.

Clip Source: www.dvo.com

Serves: 20

   Cookies
   2 1/2 cups flour sifted
   1 teaspoon cinnamon ground
   1/2 teaspoon baking soda
   1/4 teaspoon salt
   1 cup sugar
   1/2 cup butter or margarine, softened
   1/4 cup molasses
   1 egg large
   Filling
   1/2 cup sugar
   2 eggs large, slightly beaten
   1 tablespoon lemon peels grated
   1/4 cup lemon juice
   1 tablespoon butter or margarine
   1/8 teaspoon salt
   1 cup coconut flaked

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1. To make cookies, sift together flour, cinnamon, baking soda, and salt. Beat sugar and butter in a large bowl with electric mixer until fluffy. Beat in molasses and egg. On low speed, gradually beat in flour mixture. Chill 3 hours or overnight.

2. To make filling, cook and stir sugar, eggs, lemon rind, lemon juice, butter, and salt until thick. Remove from heat. Stir in coconut. Cool.

3. Heat oven to 350°. Have baking sheets ready.

4. Divide dough into four equal portions. Roll one portion at a time into a 15 x 2 1/2 -inch strip. Spread one-fourth of the filling on one half of each strip (7 1/2 x 2 1/2 inches), spreading to within 1/4 inch of edges. Fold dough over filling. Seal edges. Cut into 1 1/2 -inch bars. Place on baking sheets. Bake 12 to 15 minutes. Cool on wire racks.

Tags: cookies, recipe

How to punctuate a sentence

Thu, 05 Apr 2007 20:03:29 GMT

clipped by: missangelyss
clipper's remarks: Making simple punctuation rules easy to understand. I can think of quite a few people I'd like to force to read this.

Clip Source: www.lifehack.org

Rule one
If your sentence begins with an introductory element, put a comma after it. Even if it’s a short element, put a comma after it. In time, you’ll be putting this comma in without having to think about it.

Rule five
Complete sentences that are joined without a coordinating conjunction need a semi-colon instead of a comma; the semi-colon shows the end of one sentence and the beginning of the next. Semi-colons are often followed by a connecting word or phrase; however, a connecting word or phrase is not necessary. Sentences joined with only a comma are called comma splices; they’re among the most common errors that come up in college writing.

(Note: In the next-to-last sentence in the previous paragraph, there’s a comma after however because it’s an introductory element in the second sentence.)

Tags: grammar, punctuation