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Handling A Relationship Break Up And Maintaining Self Esteem

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 17:46:04 GMT

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By analyzing, we mean looking at the good and bad things about your relationship. Make a list and be very honest with yourself. Think back to when you first met and what attracted you to your former partner. Think what attracted them to you.

Then make a thorough analysis of your findings and weigh up the negative aspects against the positives. If the negatives far outweigh the positives then there are two things you need to ask yourself - can you turn things around and if not, why would you want your ex back?

This is going to take some doing on your part because right now you'd probably take them back under any circumstances. But what's the point if the same thing is likely to happen down the track.

Tags: handling a relationship break up, the magic of making up, t w jackson, getting your ex back

Going Back Too Your Ex For All The Wrong Reasons?

Wed, 20 Aug 2008 20:13:34 GMT

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The truth is, spurned once and there's always a strong chance you can get back together. Spurned twice then there are definite issues with the relationship but not "unfixable." Spurned three times or more and you should really be getting the message that there are other opportunities available and maybe you and your ex are not a good fit after all.

By listing the positives and negatives about your relationship will give you a good overview of how balanced your relationship is. But you need to be truthful.

Don't hold back on the negatives about your ex. You know, it's amazing what an effect this can have on a person's attitude when they actually see something written in "black and white."

Tags: magic of making up, how to get your ex back, t w jackson

How To Experience The Magic Of Making Up

Tue, 19 Aug 2008 15:23:51 GMT

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The truth is, when all looks lost and you are full of panic and desperation the best thing to do is simply walk away and accept the umpire's decision.

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What!...not the advice you expected to hear but reality is, there is really nothing you can do during this time to change your ex's mind. Right now, you are the last person they really want anything to do with. So why not start planning your get together right as of this moment and and simply tell them you agree with the break up and in fact, you were seriously considering this yourself for quite some time.

Yes, it's not what you probably want to hear at the moment because all you want is to get back where you think you belong but understand, it's a crucial first step in the magic of making up process.

Tags: the magic of making up, coping with a break up

How To Get Your Ex Back And Maintain Dignity

Tue, 19 Aug 2008 15:22:04 GMT

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Arguing is common during this time. For example, a person who's just been dumped usually reacts by trying to convince their partner their making a huge mistake and attempts to talk them out of the decision.

More importantly, it's at this time when accusations are likely to fly. This is a big mistake. Remember, you've just been dropped and the last thing your ex wants to hear is your opinion. It doesn't matter what you say, it won't make them change their mind at this moment yet, by agreeing with the break up and walking away, you've just given yourself a solid platform later on to get yourself back into the relationship.

Tags: how to get your ex back, the magic of making up

Magic Of Making Up - How To Cope With A Break Up

Tue, 19 Aug 2008 15:20:32 GMT

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There is no easy solution here but to walk away. As T W Jackson says in The Magic Of Making Up..." Agree with the break up and even go as far as to say you were actually thinking about it yourself for sometime and then walk way."

It's powerful advice because what this does is it suddenly gives you some unconscious leverage. In fact, this reaction will be the complete opposite to what was expected and will usually come right out of left field for you ex.

On one hand it will gain you some respect yet the biggest benefit here is you will suddenly throw the ball back in their court. They could be thinking "that was too easy" or "are you really seeing someone else" and they've just given you a free pass to leave.

And even if you were dumped it's not too late. You can still approach your ex provided you didn't do the "Linda Blair head turning trick" when you were asked to leave.

6 Actions Which Will Kill Your Relationship In A Break Up

Tue, 19 Aug 2008 15:18:37 GMT

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However, what you need to know is if you're desperate to get back with your ex, then don't fret, it's not all over yet. Hopefully you didn't destroy any hope of a reconciliation by letting your emotions control you and make a big scene? In this article, we want to highlight some of the "don'ts" you need to observe when you're on the wrong end of a dumping.

Yes we know, maintaining etiquette in a situation such as this is difficult and why should you give your ex the satisfaction of having the last word in the relationship? Big mistake, especially if you intend on getting your ex back!

Tags: magic of making up, coping with a break up

Things Which Could Have Hurt Your Relationship And Your Ex!

Sun, 22 Jun 2008 18:01:47 GMT

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Okay, that's the best I can do but if you're reading this and currently scratching your head about why you were turfed out of your relationship, then it's important to realize that apart from the bleeding obvious, such as an abusive or a cheating relationship, reasons for breaking up sneak up on spurned partners like stealth.

It simply may be time for you to just "take five" and go over several things about your relationship and whether you could have done it better. In fact, the break up may have just been a warning shot to shake you into reality.

Tags: magic of making up, making up, tw jackson

What To Do When You Get Dumped?

Sun, 22 Jun 2008 18:00:17 GMT

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clipper's remarks: Or maybe it should be what not to do. Some good tips here if you're on the receiving end of a dumping.

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However, the purpose of this article is to do exactly that - to tell you what you're going through so you can understand that right now, you're not you're usual self; you feel a little desperate, you're feeling panicky and it feels like there's no substance or solid mass in your stomach - it feels hollow.

In The Magic Of Making Up, T W Jackson describes this initial flurry of emotions as a type of temporary insanity and let's face it, it is. People will do desperate things aftyer being spurned especially if they still have strong feelings for their ex.

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Making Up With An Effective Apology

Sun, 22 Jun 2008 17:56:44 GMT

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clipper's remarks: When I read this I was interested to see what the one word was that could destroy any apology.

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The apology is like the final hurdle in making up with your ex. All of the good work you've done previously by following techniques outlined in The Magic Of Making Up will count for absolutely nothing if you don't get the apology right.

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Making Your Ex Current Again!

Sun, 22 Jun 2008 17:53:18 GMT

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clipper's remarks: Thought this was interesting. Some signs you should look for after you've been dumped that it's maybe not a hopeless cause getting back again.

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The Magic Of Making Up And Signs Your Ex Wants You Back - 18 days ago

There are definite signs your ex wants you back but you've got to be able to decipher between false and realistic hope otherwise, you'll end up "with egg on your face" and further away from a reconciliation than ever before. There is an.

Tags: magic of making up, getting your ex back, tw jackson

Magic Of Making Up - Making An Effective Apology

Thu, 22 May 2008 21:49:36 GMT

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So what do we mean by an insincere apology? Well, there is something about the human ego which can get in the way at the most awkward times. If you've been tossed out of your relationship for whatever reason, then you've got to realize no matter how aggrieved by it you are, your ex had a very good reason for making their decision whether you agree with it or not.

Tags: how to apologize to your ex, how to make an effective apology, magic of making up, magic of making up review, t w jackson

Apologizing After A Break Up

Sat, 03 May 2008 18:13:56 GMT

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Apologizing after a break up can either make or break the relationship. Don’t believe this? The problem with after break up apologies is they come across as insincere.

And this is where you need to be careful if you’re treading across that shaky bridge back into your lover’s arms.

Can you appreciate the delicate emotional state your ex must be in. Put it this way, if she/he felt strong enough to toss you out they are not going to be taking you back with a flimsy apology being your only offering.

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Magic Of Making Up Tips

Sat, 03 May 2008 18:12:11 GMT

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If you have been in the situation of being dumped then you know it’s one of the most emotionally charged and self esteem destroying feelings one can experience. The normal reaction is one of desperation. The person spurned reacts instinctively such as wanting to argue or to make their ex see that they are making a big mistake. In reality, that’s the first mistake you can make.

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Photos Tell The Story When You Get Dumped

Sat, 03 May 2008 18:09:57 GMT

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Ever been dumped? It's not a good feeling is it? Anyone who's been spurned will tell you it's one of the most emotionally-deflating experiences one can go through.

Your ego takes a dive; you're self-esteem takes a hit and you start to question your own worthiness. I know, I've been there.

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How To Win Your Ex Back

Sat, 03 May 2008 18:07:59 GMT

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When The Magic Of Making Up first came across my desk I simply ignored it and thought at the time..."Gosh, another book on how to get your ex back."

So you want your ex back? It's an amazing human phenomenon that we want what we cannot have. The question is always asked "well, why didn't you do your darnedest to hang on to him/her in the first place?"

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