Ten Habits of Emotionally Intelligent People

Wed, 31 Jan 2007 04:37:49 GMT

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The Ten Habits of Emotionally Intelligent People
Copyright 1999 Steve Hein, The EQ Institute - May be copied for educational uses.

High EQ people:

1. Label their feelings, rather than labeling people or situations.	"I feel impatient." vs "This is ridiculous." "I feel hurt and bitter". vs. "You are an insensitive jerk." "I feel afraid." vs. "You are driving like a idiot."
2. Distinguish between thoughts and feelings.	Thoughts: I feel like...& I feel as if.... & I feel that Feelings: I feel: (feeling word)
3. Take responsibility for their feelings.	"I feel jealous." vs. "You are making me jealous."
4. Use their feelings to help them make decisions.	"How will I feel if I do this?" "How will I feel if I don't"
5. Show respect for other people's feelings.	They ask "How will you feel if I do this?" "How will you feel if I don't."
6. Feel energized, not angry.	They use what others call "anger" to help them feel energized to take productive action.
7. Validate other people's feelings.	They show empathy, understanding, and acceptance of other people's feelings.
8. Practice getting a positive value from their negative emotions.	They ask themselves: "How do I feel?" and "What would help me feel better?" They ask others "How do you feel?" and "What would help you feel better?"
9. Don't advise, command, control, criticize, judge or lecture to others.	They realize it doesn't feel good to be on the receiving end of such behavior, so they avoid it.
10. Avoid people who invalidate them, or don't respect their feelings.	As much as possible, they choose to associate only with other people with high EQ.

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How We Taste Affects Health

Tue, 21 Nov 2006 12:24:39 GMT

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Doctors Say How We Taste Affects Health

WASHINGTON (AP) -- Woe to those who have a cold on Thursday. If you can't smell the roasting turkey, it just won't taste as good.

And if you think the brussels sprouts are bitter, well, blame how many taste buds you were born with, not the chef.

But never fear: Even after you're pleasantly stuffed from second helpings, there's a little spot deep in your brain that still gives a "Wow!'' for pumpkin pie.

How we taste is pretty complicated, an interaction of the tongue, the nose, psychological cues and exposure to different foods.

But ultimately, we taste with our brains.

"Why do we learn to like foods? When they're paired with something our brains are programmed to see as good,'' says Dr. Linda Bartoshuk of the University of Florida, a specialist in the genetics of human taste.

Sorry, brains are programmed to want fat, probably an evolutionary hangover from times of scarcity. But what's necessary for survival isn't all the brain likes. University of Michigan researchers just uncovered that eating something tasty can spark brain cells that sense actual pleasure to start firing rapidly.

More provocative, how intensely people sense different flavors seems to affect how healthy they are.

Are you among the "supertasters,'' people who shun vegetables because they find them more bitter than the average person does? Supertasters may be more at risk of developing colon cancer as a result, says a recent University of Connecticut study.

It's research that sheds light on more than how we eat at food-rich holidays like Thanksgiving. If scientists can prove those connections, it would be empowering information for people struggling to eat better year-round.

"People pile a lot of guilt on themselves,'' says Connecticut's Dr. Valerie Duffy, who is leading research into the links between inborn "preference palates'' and health.

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