Gay Rites

Sun, 27 Apr 2008 13:39:36 GMT

clipped by: debbyski
clipper's remarks: "While most of our heterosexual peers had experienced, in their teens, socialization around courtship, dating and sexuality, many of us had grown up closeted and fearful, “our most precious and tender feelings rarely validated or reflected back to us by our families and communities”

I found this to be a very interesting article about gay marriage and how being closeted in American society can affect you. Imagine not being able to express your sexuality because it was not accepted by society even though it has always felt so natural to you. And I found the concept of monogamy which is addressed in this article for men, straight or gay, to be questionable for many. If men were completely honest, I don't think most of them have the potential to be in a monogamous relationship. And this isn't based on my personal experience either because my husband has been a man who chose monogamy.

Clip Source: www.nytimes.com

(Joshua was referencing a longstanding joke —What does a lesbian bring on a second date? A U-Haul! — that is supposed to satirize the way some lesbians rush into cohabitation. The joke is sometimes paired with a second one about gay men rushing into bed: What does a gay man bring on a second date? What second date?)

Clip Source: www.nytimes.com

Had gay marriage been an option when I was 23 and recently out of the closet, I might very well have proposed to my first gay love.

And part of me tried, but a bigger part of me wanted to pitch a tent in my favorite gay bar. I wasn’t alone.

When we managed to express our sexuality, the experience often came booby-trapped with secrecy, manipulation or debilitating shame.

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